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God is not a concept or doctrine.  He is a person who seeks a close, one on one relationship with you and me.  God does not want us to merely believe in Him, He wants to relate to us on a personal level.  He does not want to hear us recite prayers, He desires to converse with us.  God wants to be actively involved in our lives through an intimate relationship.

All of the significant accomplishments in the history on mankind have been achieved by teams of people.  We tend to revere rugged individualists, but in real life there are no “Rambos” or “Lone Rangers” who do things of great and eternal achievement on their own.  This truth can also be carried over to a personal level.  Most of life’s great moments, the ones that resonate in our hearts and minds, involve other people.  Rarely do we experience these times alone.  And if we do, our first inclination is to share them with others.  Nothing else in life is as fulfilling as the relationships we cultivate.  Our relationship with God, a spouse, children, parents, co-workers, and friends is truly life…the rest are just details. 

Welcome to Relationship U where healthy relationships start!  Our mission is to help you love God and others more effectively through practical and eternal principles of successful relationships. 

Dr. Matt Turvey

Matt-w_emailMatthew D. Turvey, Psy.D., is the Director of Strategic Alliances for Life Innovations, an organization specializing in couple’s relationship assessment and enrichment. He is a licensed psychologist in the state of Minnesota with a specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy.  In addition to being ac tive in private practice, Dr. Turvey previously worked at the Smalley Relationship Center in Branson, Missouri, and with Marriage Today, the ministry of Jimmy and Karen Evans, in Dallas, Texas. 

He is the author of several articles and reports on marriage and family issues, especially related to the importance of relational wellness in the workplace.  Dr. Turvey has been married to his wonderful wife Nicole since 1996.  They have three children, Braeden, Alexis, and Drew, and make their home in Cottage Grove, MN.
   

Recommended Reading

The following book titles on relationships are recommended by Pastor Margie McDaniel, Young Adults and Singles Pastor at Living Word Christian Center. Most of these books can be found by searching Amazon.com.


All Relationships:

Boundaries in Marriagealt Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend

How to Have That Difficult Conversation You've Been Avoiding by Cloud and Townsend

Who's Pushing Your Buttons?Who's Pushing Your Buttons?alt" target="_blank"> by Cloud and Townsend

Changes That Heal by Cloud and Townsend

Hiding From Love by Cloud and Townsend

Loving People by Cloud and Townsend

It’s Not My Fault by Cloud and Townsend

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman


Dating:

How to Get a Date Worth Keeping by Cloud and Townsend

For Young Women Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn


Women:

Every Woman’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, Mike Yorkey


Men:

Every Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, Mike Yorkey

Wild at Heart by John Eldridge


Marriage:

Boundaries in Marriage by Cloud and Townsend

Rescue Your Love Life by Cloud and Townsend

Every Man’s Marriage: Every Man’s Guide to Winning the Heart of a Woman by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, Mike Yorkey

For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn

For Women Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn

Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Heirs Together by Pastor Mac Hammond

Keys to Compatibility by Pastor Mac Hammond

The Marriage You’ve Always Dreamed Of Greg Smalley


Family:

Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker

Boundaries with Kids by Cloud and Townsend

Raising Great Kids by Cloud and Townsend

Boundaries with Teens by Cloud and Townsend

You Have What it Takes: What Every Father Needs to Know by John Eldridge

Raising Boys by John Eldridge

Raising Girls by John Eldridge

For Parents Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn

   

Relationship University Resources

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Discover Your Relationship Quotient

2009 01 07

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DISC Personality Inventory (iQuestion.com): http://is.gd/f2SX

Available in the Living Words Bookstore: Couple Checkup. To reserve a copy call 763 315-7018.

"The Don't Song": http://is.gd/f36X

Mark Gungor - Men's Brain vs. Women's Brain: http://is.gd/dS5U

 

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Communication – The #1 Skill

2009 01 14

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Conflict Resolution or Conflict: An Opportunity in Disguise

2009 01 21

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Additional Resources: 
Ten Steps to Conflict Resolution
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Finances – More than Money

2009 01 28

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Additional Resources: 
The Money Quiz 
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Sex – Beyond the Birds and the Bees

2009 02 04

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Additional Resources: 
Relationship Improvement Reminders
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Safe Eyes Internet Filtering and Reporting: http://is.gd/itYa

Plugged In Online movie/music/tv/media reviews: http://is.gd/81n

Growthtrac, resources for all relationships: http://is.gd/iu0S

Focus on the Family (Life Challenges and Social Issues links on left side): http://is.gd/iu28

America's Family Coaches, Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg: http://is.gd/iu2C

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Spiritual Intimacy–Living Out Faith & Values through Relationships 

2009 02 11

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Additional Resources: 
Ernie's UPS (United Poetry Service) Poem
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The Sacred Marriage: http://is.gd/30hfF